All Posts

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. Do you ever find yourself around someone who just won’t stop talking about their religion? It can be exhausting. Sometimes you want to shout, “Please — not everyone believes what you believe!” If you’ve been in that situation, you’re not alone. In this post, I want to talk about why some people may behave this way and how you can navigate those interactions with as much calm and compassion as possible. Why Some

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. Someone recently said to me that deconstructing your faith after age forty is so hard. And I understood exactly what she meant. When your entire life — your friendships, your routines, your values — has been built around a religious system, stepping away from that can feel like losing most of yourself. It’s not just a change in belief; it’s a change in being. In this post, I want to talk about why that process

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. When someone once told me that, after they stopped believing in an afterlife, it felt like the ground shifted beneath their feet, I knew exactly what they meant. That disorientation is such a common experience for those of us who’ve left religion and no longer hold the same beliefs about what happens after we die. It can feel like losing something that once made life make sense — a story that provided comfort,

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. Feelings of regret over “wasted years” can be so complex. I hear this often from people who’ve left religious organizations — they share that they feel regret for the time, energy, or money they devoted to something that ultimately didn’t serve them well. But the truth is, this experience isn’t limited to religion. Many of us, at one point or another, look back on a season of our lives and feel the sting of dis

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. People often ask, How do you, as a secular chaplain, care for people who are religious? It’s a good question — and part of the answer lies in what all  professionally trained chaplains are meant to do. Clinically trained chaplains are taught to meet people exactly where they are — to walk alongside them, not ahead of them, not above them, but with  them. Our care is never about us. It’s always about the person

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. Having access to secular chaplain care is deeply important for so many...

I often get asked: How can there be such a thing as a secular chaplain?  It sounds like a contradiction — secular meaning “not...

👉 If you’d rather watch the video version, you can find it here. You matter. Truly. Open-hearted, kind, compassionate people of goodwill...

Leaving religion can stir up all kinds of feelings. Some are easy to name — grief, loss, even relief. But there’s another layer many of...

Have you ever had that heavy, cloudy feeling—like something’s wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? You just know you feel...

Have you ever tried to share something painful, only to be told, “You’ll be fine”  or “Don’t worry, it’ll get better soon” ? On the...

Leaving religion can be a huge relief. But if you’ve ever gone looking for support afterward, you may have found that so much care is...

There was such disappointment. My leaving religion story doesn’t come with trauma, but it does carry a tremendous weight of grief and...

You’re not alone. If you’ve left religion and you’re feeling lonely or maybe even disoriented… I just want to say that right up front:...